Let’s discuss the​ REALITY of ​motherhood

Hello!

I’m Becky ​Selbie.

I’m a Mum of two and a qualified ​Psychotherapeutic Counsellor specialising in ​Motherhood.


I’m passionate about enabling and ​encouraging women like you to speak freely ​about the REALITY of motherhood. Without ​fear of judgement or guilt.


Together we can pick apart and understand ​the harder parts of motherhood. The ​emotions, experiences and feelings society ​would prefer you to KEEP MUM about.



“To keep Mum”

Remain silent, especially so as ​not to reveal a secret

Stop Keeping Mum about…

Infertility

baby loss

birth trauma

post natal depression

loss of identity

mum guilt

maternal rage

missing your old life

My story

I thought I was prepared for motherhood. ​Indeed I was. Just not the reality of it. I was ​ready for a motherhood that doesn’t actually ​exist. You know the one - in the films, on tv, the ​romanticised image of the mother who ​instinctively knows what she’s doing. Who ​understands and loves her baby from the ​moment they meet. The mother who loves ​every minute. A motherhood where I would put ​everyone first, leaving my old life and identity ​behind, never feeling any sadness, confusion or ​resentment about that. The perfect mother.


The changes and challenges that motherhood ​brought to my life were seismic. The reality was ​such a shock. Realising I couldn’t have prepared ​for this, because the reality of motherhood is so ​rarely discussed, made me furious.


A combination of therapy and learning about the ​ways motherhood impacts us, helped me to a ​place of self-compassion and freed me from the ​all-consuming pressure to be the perfect mother.


I vowed to make it my mission to help as many ​women as possible to understand the changes ​that becoming a mother has brought them. To ​make sense of who they are now, and most ​importantly to find a way to be kind to ​themselves and be able to enjoy motherhood, ​without the constant feeling of failing. Most of ​all I vowed to encourage no more KEEPING ​MUM about the reality of motherhood.

How do i help?

Individual therapy

Making sense of ​Motherhood ​Programme

Why work with me?

Qualifications & TRAINING

I am a fully qualified and insured Psychotherapeutic Counsellor. I completed my Diploma in ​Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Transactional Analysis) at the Connexus Institute, Hove. In addition to 3 ​years of academic study. this training required over 350 hours of clinical placement.


I continue to undertake further training in the areas in which I specialise and am passionate about. This ​includes ongoing supervision and training with renowned maternal mental health expert and ​Psychotherapist, Dr Emma Haynes.


As well as working within my own private practice I have also held a Perinatal Counsellor role for the NHS, ​working with expectant and new parents, and a Bereavement Volunteer role for a local hospice.


I am registered with The UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP), The United Kingdom Association of ​Transactional Analysis (UKATA), The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and

The International Association of Relational Transactional Analysis (IARTA).


FAQ’s

How long are sessions?

Sessions are 50 minutes long, take place weekly, either in person or via Zoom.

HO​w much are sessions?

Sessions cost £65, though I do hold a small number of lower rate sessions for those in financial difficulty.

How can i get in touch?

EM​AIL:

co​ntact@rebeccaselbie.co.uk

Ph​one:

07​901 516704

In​stagram

@stop_keeping_mum.co.uk